By Javier Benavides, Cambio Magazine Sports.
I was just sitting watching a tennis game at my club when suddenly one of the players made an error and started arguing and smashing the racquet on the court. His opponent said, «let’s play and do not worry about the result, this is just a game»…» remember what we said when the game started, we are going to play like professionals and I chose to be Federer and you chose Nadal».
His comment was like strike a match inside a gas tanker, «Yes stupid, well I don’t want to be Nadal, I’m going to be Kyrgios MF» the angered player answered and then he smashed his racquet 3 or 4 times more until his father had to mediate and stop the aggressive behavior. «This is not what I have told you, not what I said to do in a situation like this?» the embarrassed father asked.
The age of the self-called Kyrgios, 9 years old.
A lesson to learn.
You may not know it, but your day-to-day behavior, from the way you drive to the tone of your voice, is shaping the way your child will act. For many children, the most important role models are those who have a regular presence in their lives.
Children look up to a variety of role models that help shape how they behave in school, handle relationships, or make difficult decisions. Children will use the example you set, whether it be positive or negative, as a pattern for the way life should be lived. What we do doesn’t define who we are; who we are, define what we do.
Saying “Do as I say, not as I do” simply does not work.
Children can spot hypocrisy like an eagle spots its prey over a mile away, and they gain the most from parents who show consistency between their actions and their values by “walking the talk.”
If you don’t want your children to spend too much time on technology devices, then it’s important that you limit your use of the same devices and be fully present when interacting with your kids.
If you want children to be thoughtful and kind, then you need to be the person you want the child to become.
Kids are like a sponge, absorbing everything you say and do.
They learn attitudes, behaviors, prejudices, likes, dislikes, compassion and generosity by watching the way you conduct yourself each day.
How you respond to problems, handle stress, frustrations, treat other people, and deal with responsibilities, loss, and mistakes will impact the lives behind the little eyes watching you.
In this case, those are kids that love Tennis and have idols and models to follow up, but definitively the Australian Nick Kyrgios is not one of them. The question is why the specialized media give such exposure to them?
Most of the tennis fans are tired of guys like Kyrigios saying bad words, lacking respect to the umpires, opponents, and to the public that pay to watch the games.
These players are in need of anger control therapy and their violent acts should be ignored by the tv producers. On the same path, we find some ladies too, like Serena Williams, insulting cursing and threatening umpires and linesman as she did in the 2018 US Open final.
They are not funny, Kyrgios is not funny as he may think he is, but somehow they catch the attention of the media and in some cases, they are fined with ridiculous amounts like $10,500 in Serena’s case and $167,000 in Kyrgios unacceptable behavior.
The sanctions applied to the offenders are unimaginable and unfear too, the USTA backed up the gross behavior of Serena and punished umpire Carlos Ramos honoring the Williams words » You will never do another one of my matches».
The hypocrisy of the explanation about the decision to keep apart Ramos from the Williams sisters games was really evident «we want to focus on the competition» said Stacey Allaster, president of the USTA.
The world is already plenty of violent behaviors that involve aggression, anger, offenses and honestly, the exposure of really low-level home education in a high-level sport like tennis, should receive a different treatment from media and sponsors like Nike and many other endorsers.